Tuesday, June 30, 2009


I received an email recently from eHarmony announcing that I have 87 compatible matches in Houston waiting to talk to me. 87, really, that is a bit intriguing, even in my current state of mind.

I'm not an active eHarmony user, but 87 compatible matches sounded like something I should check out. {I have tried eHarmony a couple of times and while I did meet a few nice people, nothing really came of it.} So, I dusted off my password and logged on. After a few minutes I decided we had quite a disconnect....apparently we (eHarmony and I) have very different understandings of the word compatible.

Dictionary.com defines compatible as follows:

1. capable of existing or living together in harmony: the most compatible married couple I know. 2. able to exist together with something else: Prejudice is not compatible with true religion.
3. consistent; congruous (often fol. by with): His claims are not compatible with the facts.

Webster's definition (and mine) was similar.

Now, I'm sure that these are all perfectly nice people, but the only things I could see that we had in common were in the very broadest categories. So if I may, I would like to respectfully request, that someone at eHarmony refresh their understanding of the definition of the word.


Trix in the City said...

Oh... But I'm sure at least a 1/4 of them were your age or near it, a 1/4 of them were your height (which no offense... but a tad to short for a man)... and I'm sure the rest like dogs. Right??? HA!

eHarmony_jack said...

Sorry to hear you’re not happy with your matches thus far. The compatibility to which we refer is measured through your answers to that original long Relationship Questionnaire. The compatibility factors include dimensions like energy level, artistry, ambition, and more. Our research shows that these are the key foundational elements two individuals must share in order to build a solid relationship that will be happy and healthy in the long run.

It’s not a guarantee that your life styles or affinities will be the same. And it’s not a guarantee that you’ll have chemistry with all these matches. The goal is to ultimately find one great candidate among the matches sent to you.

If you feel, however, that your matching isn’t right, we may be able to reset the Relationship Questionnaire. It is quite possible that your results from a while ago don’t really match who you are today. This can be done for free. You can contact our Customer Care team at: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/ or follow me on Twitter @eharmony_jack We’d love to have a chance to help your experience improve. - Jack

Heather said...

Yeah Kristy, it's not eHarmony's fault that before you were into older/shorter men and now you're not.

How cool is it that eHarmony found you??? They all find you, it seems. I wonder if all your crazy bookstore customers will find you next.

Anonymous said...

eHarmony_jack is CREEPY!!

Heather said...

I think he sounds tall.

Rhonda said...

LOL ... Big Brother is watching you 24/7, Kristy.